Tuesday, February 15, 2022
Saturday, January 29, 2022
WHY? | THE LOVE OF A FATHER
I had that "deep cleaning" bug that all or us women get from time to time; going through drawers and paperwork piles...wiping whatever dried thing that was on the kitchen chair... regular mommy stuff. Tonight it was "under the bed." Lying against the cold floor, I was happy to see that it had been fairly well maintained since last time - just a dust bunny or two, and one other thing. I stretched for it, and brought out a little red box, tied with ribbon. "Probably leftover from Christmas, " I thought, pulling off the lid.
And then my heart stopped.
It was the box that I had made for him, and hid away.
All the feelings that I tried not to visit, poured into me again, overwhelming, aching, pricking my eyes with tears.
His hospital bracelet, all his ultrasound pictures. I fingered the hat and blanket that the nurses had brought while he lay, slipping away, over my heart.
Ethan pulled me into a hug.
"Why?" I breathed, sobbing.
"I don't know." He replied, quietly.
God's ways are higher, yes. All things work for our good, yes. He is the healer, yes. He brings the dead to life, yes. But where was He that day?
It's a question that echoes over and over through time; in hospitals, at gravesides, and in quiet places where no one sees. "How can God love me, and let me go through this?"
Hard stuff takes "What we believe" and moulds it into "What I believe." This is my anchor, and what I hold close, in my heart:
We're so quick to blame God, aren't we. In those tearful moments, we don't consider how His goodness floods our lives, and every sunrise is His gift to us. He prepares the breaths that we breathe, blesses our food, and brings our families back through the door every night - simple things that we barely consider. As if that wasn't enough, all of these "everyday" gifts are overshadowed by the cross where His own son bled mercy over our lives. Rising, He stretched a strong hand for us to hold through good and bad, all the way into the new world He is making for us.
Oh yes, our world is overwhelmed and carried captive by evil; but do we ever consider all that He's done to bring us back? He still protects us and holds us in His hand, and He's prepared such a beautiful place for those who love Him. Mercy, through trials, prepares us for that place.
Is this not love?
Today there are tears and heavy hearts, but also calm, knowing that our boy is safe. He was God's before He was ours, and I'm just thankful that he was shared with us for a few minutes. We have promises and evidences of the unfolding plans of God - for Wynn, and for us.
"They that sow in tears shall reap in joy." ( Psalm 126:5)
Thursday, January 7, 2021
INTRODUCTION TO BRIGHT LINE EATING | BABY STEPS TOWARD WELLNESS
Monday, July 6, 2020
IF YOU COULD TALK TO GOD | JOURNAL
.... Why can't I sleep?
When Mommas have opportunities to sleep in, they take them, right?! Not today.
Anxiety medication can only do so much, and this morning, it isn't working.
The semi-darkness of our living room feels like such a sacred thing. No one crying. No one speaking. No noise or motion. This time is mine. This Bible is mine. This moment is just for me; to fill me.
Though I walk through the valley of the shadow....I fear no evil.
"Cast all your cares on Him....for He cares for you.
This level of stillness is something that I haven't felt for such a long time. There has always been a little somebody to follow me out, needing a snuggle, or breakfast or something at this time of day, and too often devotions sounded something like: "Lord...please give me strength for today..." ... and that was about it.
But this.
This reminds me why the winds obey Him, and the waves calm.
If I could have a sit-down conversation with Him this morning, this is what it might look like:
Him: "Ask what you will, child..."
Me: "Lord, are you sure? There's so much that needs fixing in me..."
Him: "Is anything too hard for the Lord to do?"
Me: "No, but I don't feel like I deserve to ask...I'm falling apart. Overcome by anxiety. Overcome by my own weakness."
Him: "Child, When I look at you, I see purity and wholeness, paid for by my own blood. Have no fear...."
Me: "My life, Lord, I need it back. It's broken beyond anything that I can change. I don't have the strength to put everything back together anymore. I don't even have the strength in me for today."
Him: "But I am your creator and sustainer. I promised not to give you more than you could handle. For today, that means that I am giving you the strength to make it through, victorious. This will work out for your good, no matter what it feels like because you are mine."
How many of us need to hear this, I wonder? We can. Every day. You and I both know that all those words come from the scripture; meant for even the weakest of Christians. He wants to talk with you this morning. What's breaking your heart? What's pulling you apart? What's that one thing that you need to see happen today? He wants to talk about it.
He may not give you a vision or an Angel with a scroll, but He promised that if you would ask, you would receive.
Go in after your peace today. Your strength. Your comfort.
He wants to bless you more than you want to be blessed.
You are loved.
Monday, June 29, 2020
BEING A "GOOD ENOUGH" MOM | IN MY WAITING
I've always been this way. Big ideas. Big dreams. Big (and specific) plans; and for as long as I can remember, I know God has been teaching me to enjoy the process of reaching my goals ... and, worse ... to enjoy the waiting.
I'm not good at waiting.
And I don't like the unexpected.
But this year, both of those things have been constant, aching, growing pains for me.
Waiting to be strong again.
Waiting to be healed, totally.
Waiting for peace.
Waiting for life to begin again.
But day after day...there is simple stillness...and the promise that God is working, even when I can't see it.
It's hard for my "big picture" self, to slow down this much.
Today I dare to ponder that all of us Moms can feel like this sometimes: Unless we are "going" and "doing" and working ourselves crazy on one project or another, we find ourselves feeling empty and purposeless.
I do.
Without diapers to change, sippy cups to re-fill, a thousand "hold me, mommy"s to satisfy, floors to vacuum, business checks to write... I'm so lost.
During this season of my life, I've caught myself cramming house projects into my days so that the "quietness" won't sneak up on me in a form of uselessness. I've come to see that in my own mind that if I'm not working, I'm not being productive. If I'm not being productive, I'm not being enough. If I'm not enough, then I am worthless - and with this realization, I had to stop myself, in the midst of my clawing and grasping for worth - to re-think the definition of myself, and the definition of Mommyness.
Motherhood is so many different things. It's being so busy homeschooling that your body craves a quiet moment. It's being so still with a newborn in your arms, that you wonder if you'll ever do anything else again. It's feeling so satisfied with your fresh, clean house and yummy, home-cooked meal, that you wonder how you deserve to be blessed with this beautiful life. It's being so exhausted, and overwhelmed that you wonder what in the world you're doing wrong.
Are any of these phases not a part of being a mom? I've only been doing this for four years, and already, I can relate with every single version in the above paragraph. Does any of these versions seem "Useless?" And even if they did, should we really let them define our worthiness or value?
Truth is: God has loved us with an everlasting love. He poured it out over us in the form of His blood - because we aren't worthy and we can't be enough.
That takes out all the fear and all the worry, right there.
Should we try hard? Yes. But in whatever stage we find ourselves in today, we can just lean back and know know that Jesus is enough. His grace sustains us through the hard times. His love fills us so that we can pour out to our children.
If we are fulfilling His call in our lives, and that call brings us to a place of quiet - let's rejoice in that! If He has called us to a busy season - we can rest in His strength for each new day. If He has called us to a season of waiting - we will pray, and trust that His plans are perfect.
There are so many voices that try to label and define us - but you and me, we don't need to add to that clamor. Let's rest in the goodness of our Heavenly Father, who created us, called us, and sustains us as Moms.
We are enough, because He is, and He called us here. Lean on Him, and you can't go wrong.
Wednesday, June 24, 2020
DEAR MOMMA | WHO ARE YOU?
As always, centerfield is a safe place to stand on opinion.
I remember when my first little girl was born. All the snuggles. All the bows. All the little ruffled jammies.
So sweet.
Oh, was it sweet!
But there was so little sleep. And there was so much bleary-eyed feeding. And so many diaper changes. And so very little time for myself that even a common shower felt like an act of reckless rebellion.
Had I lost myself? For a time, I suppose. But looking back I see that, really, I found myself in the care of my new baby girl: In the soft weight of her on my shoulder, and the tiny, sweet breath of hers on my neck, I found contentment. In her little snore, something in me was almost giddy with delight. Seeing her become more alert and independent brought a tinge of sadness that mixed with the joy of watching her grow.
We've all seen it in our Mother's eyes; the joy, the pride, the uncertainty, the happiness. Then we grow up and feel it all down to our very souls...and all those weird things that they said and did makes sense. The miracle of motherhood; passed down through generations.
Looking back on those precious "first" days of Haven's life, I remember feeling like I had lost my everything to become a 24 hour milk factory...but I also cried all the way to the grocery store and back the first time I left her with a sitter for an hour. (The sitter was her Grandmother. Who volunteered. No judging ya'll!)
Sometimes we find perspective in the void of loss, or change.
For me, lately, there's been a lot of both.
I know I've talked often about the heaviness of this current time in my life, and I don't want to stay over here on the ash heap and call a rain cloud over your day; but it's here, if we trade the ash heap for my living room couch, that I really realized with my mind what my heart knew all along.
Purpose, is people.
Our people.
All people.
We Moms don't have to run after a career to become fulfilled and useful. I mean, let's face it: all of us know the story of some wealthy, lonely man or woman who spend the last days of their life alone in a nursing home.
We Moms don't have to be "the best" Mom to become fulfilled or useful. The floors will be smudged within ten minutes of mopping them; the stainless steel refrigerator will be printed by sticky fingers; the hair bow will be ripped out of the cute little hair-do on the way to church. Somebody will inevitably criticize you anyway.
We Moms don't have to meet a quota, or earn a raise, or be outrageously beautiful to be fulfilled or useful....because when we really stop for a minute and get quiet; get alone...we notice that the things that makes our hearts the happiest are the million big-little moments in the run of an ordinary day.
In stillness I've realized that for me, purpose comes from snuggling the four year old in my bed, even though it's a breach of Pritchard Household Policy. Fulfillment is the smile on my husband's face when I make him laugh at the dinner table. Happiness comes from making happiness for people. My people. All people.
Really, isn't that what God did for us? Gave up everything - all of heaven - to come down and wash the dirty feet of His disciples? He brought healing, and love to people at His own expense.
"Greater love hath no man than this, that he lay down his life for His friends."
How can we do any less?
So friend, do chase after purpose - but let's start by looking in the right place. There is opportunity all around you. What ordinary things fulfill your heart? Do yourself a favor and write them down. Never forget how much Jesus valued the ordinary, or how much He values you.