Monday, March 10, 2014

Guest Post by Elisabeth Wallace

Elisabeth wrote this post for our Castle Keepers group. I was considering composing just such a list for my readers here and, being somewhat of an opportunist, asked if I could borrow hers. Here it is - hope it will inspire you like it did me.


I’ve heard it said that there is only a few years between your last spanking and when you get married… Hmmm :) Maybe you think that year is far off but is it? Whether that day is 1 or 2 or even 5 years away there are some things you can be doing right now while you are waiting.

1. Pray for your future mate.


If it’s the Lord will for you to get married, you have a wonderful privilege to be able to pray for the young man God has chosen for you.  Pray that the Lord give you a Holy Ghost filled mate, that he watches over that young man, protects him, helps him in his decisions and keeps him from the snares of the enemy.

Who you marry is the biggest decision you will ever make outside of giving your heart to the Lord. Each one of you young ladies wants the Lord’s best in your lives so talking and praying to our dear heavenly Father about it is the greatest thing you could do.

“I tell you, dear friend: the best way to find the will of God in some important matters is prayer.” Questions & Answers 1961

My dad prayed for my mom before he ever met her. He would pray that the Lord would bless, keep and guide her. Sometimes he would look up at the stars and wonder if she was looking at them, too.  What a romantic!

Wouldn’t it be special if you knew that the young man God has chosen for you was asking the Lord to be with you and to help you each day?

2. Develop your character by becoming best friends with those in your own family.

If you have siblings, God has given you an opportunity to have built in friendships within your own family. But many times we look at our brother or sister as someone we must endure rather than as a friend.

Marriage does not change your disposition even if you marry the best man on the planet. Why?

Because character is not a gift but a victory as Bro. Branham said.

We all want to be a wonderful helpmeet for our future husbands but now is a training ground for that time. So determine with God's help to be the sister you should be.  Do kind deeds for your siblings without grudging. Something they wouldn't expect from you. Surprise them.

Make them your best friend. Talk to them about the things that interests them. Do things with them.

Maybe there are times when your sibling is not being agreeable at all. Remember the Scripture, “A soft answer turneth away wrath.” Stop in that heated moment, take a deep breath, ask for God to help you and respond kindly. Go to your room, if possible, and compose yourself. And always remember to pray about it. Prayer really is the key to everything.

Build your character now before you say the "I do's" at the altar.

3. Establish Good Habits.
Now is the time to form habits that you will want to take into marriage. Any good habit you have in place during your single years will make the marriage years so much easier. When you get married there is so much to learn but if you have worthy habits in place you will make smoother days for yourself.

One of the best things about habits is that once they are habits they become so automatic that you don't even have to think about them.

Some habits that will stand you in good stead....

  • Making your bed every morning
  • Keeping your room tidy with clothes picked up (after all how do you expect to keep a house if you cannot keep your room)
  • Having a schedule for how often you change your sheets
  • Eating foods that will benefit your health and the health of your future children
  • Exercising for your health and the health of your future children
  • Having a personal time with the Lord everyday

This is not an exhaustive list. It is just some things that I feel are very important for young girls to work on now.

To recap. Pray for your future husband! Enjoy your brothers and sisters and learn habits that you can keep forever.

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